This year, don't set inflated goals to make up for every choice you didn't make in 2022.

This year, I want you to cultivate a power and presence within you that allows you to choose your good all the time, in every circumstance of your life.

You are worth so much more than one year can offer. You are worth so much more than a few paltry achievements, even if they sound like the moon to you.

That said, a worthy goal or two, can help you realize how powerful you are. Sometimes we have to want something, in order to spread our formidable wings—or even to discover that we have them.

As a career and success coach, I love to use any goal as an excuse to part the veils, and step between the worlds. Whenever we commit to a dream or desire, it means we are willing to walk past resistance, distraction, the drone of old stories, and inner ogres. I want you to have the experience of being invincible—and realizing your strength and abundance in this life.

I know you will have days that throw you off. But I want you to learn the skills of getting on course, even more than I want you to reach just one particular goal. I want you to adopt attitudes that release magic and velocity.

The secret of being invincible is learning practices in which nothing can defeat you. It's not about the goals you set, but the attitudes you employ. It's an outcome of beautiful choices.

So, I want to look at 3 mental habits that will help you get "there," wherever there is for you—and help you with every other area of your life as well.

It's time to fire the Marine drill sergeant screaming orders, setting stop watches, and shoving your face in the mud. Maybe it works for a war. But I don't want you living in a war. I want you planting an orchard that flourishes for generations. You will accomplish more through love than you ever will through fear.

Self-brutality may induce temporary changes, but they are not sustainable results. The ulcer gets in the way, the nervous breakdown, or the divorce. Abuse always brings more pain, not less. You may achieve a result, only to spiral out of control in a bigger way.

I blazed through Harvard Law School on autopilot and the high-pitched drive of anxiety. But I could not sustain that success. It wasn't coming from a renewable place within me. I had to crash.

Only love gives you endless energy. Only love will go the distance.

As you dare to stretch, be kinder to yourself than you have ever been. Kindness reminds you of your unquestionable worth, no matter what you've done. And then it encourages you to do what you came here to do.

Kindness isn't a doormat, but a launch pad. Kindness gives you permission to try over and over without any fear of failure. But real kindness doesn't let you off the hook. Self-love doesn't let you give up on yourself or choose less than your best.

In these years, I've discovered that I am slower to achieve "big" success. There are the times I have to sit by the side of the road and feel my feelings—instead of push past them. But I am in this game forever now. I am resilient. I'm also going for a broader success too: I don't just want to end up on the mountain top. I want to end up as my own dear friend, my bestie, along the way.

And I don't want to wait to reach my goal in order to celebrate my life. I want to reach the mountain top with a thousand pink tulips already in my arms.

Rigidity will break your spirit. If you have to do something perfectly, there's no breathing room for expansion. I'd rather you know going in, that you are going to stumble. You are going to miss a workout or a parent teachers' meeting. You are going to scarf down a brownie or dive into a trough of butter pecan ice cream. You are going to be out of control and endearingly human.

But that doesn't mean you can't be invincible.

For me, invincibility comes down to flexibility. It's the willingness to begin again and again. If you blew your goal yesterday, don't waste a second of time berating yourself or fearing consequences. The present moment can heal most anything. Choose again. Choose now. Drop the ball in Times Square all over again, ten times a day if you need to, 10-9-8…and give yourself a clean slate, a new beginning, another chance. It's not weak to give yourself chances. It's dedication. It means you want your goal, even more than you want to be perfect.

Here's something else to consider: I believe I found more peace of mind in losing my way and finding it again than if I'd never lost it at all.

This devotion helped me build self-trust. I saw that even if I tripped up, I could count on myself to come back.

Also, I've found that not doing what I desire, teaches me how much I desire it. It teaches me how much I want to climb this mountain—whatever it takes. Then, it becomes less about discipline; I am simply thirsty for the dream and craving my own integrity.

If you do not dedicate yourself to something you will dissipate your potential. It's too easy to drift without focus or stay in the swamp of numbness or soul-sabotaging casualness. Commitment activates awareness. When you dedicate yourself to an intention you become alive and present. You show up—or you evaluate why you are not showing up.

Dedication also helps you to realize that you don't have to be in the mood to pursue the goal.

I've shown up to write a book, even when I've felt nervous, tired, and hostile. I wandered around the blank page like a homeless person looking for grub. I showed up believing nothing good could come out of the bog of my sad mind. And like many writers before me, I was wrong. Talk about poetic justice.

Dedication helped me to ignore my ego, the guardian that strives to keep me safe. On days when I felt absolute dread, I still found myself discovering another self, one who was weightless, giddy and skipping towards the horizon.

You will be stunned to discover your full capacities. We all house secret genies. We all have embedded powers we have yet to set free. Sometimes it takes a tiny bit of discomfort to discover the sweeter comfort of becoming our true selves.

I wish each and every one of you an invincible new year. You have so many gifts to give—and your life is poised for success. May you know courage, strength and the ability to walk yourself through anything—with love.

Tama Kieves, an honors graduate of Harvard Law School, left her law practice to write and help others create their most extraordinary lives. She is the bestselling author of 4 books including A Year Without Fear: 365 Days of Magnificence and her latest Thriving Through Uncertainty. A sought-after speaker and career/success coach, she has helped thousands to thrive in their life, calling, and businesses. Sign up for your FREE digital fortune cookies and a free copy of her popular webinar Dare to Decide at www.tamakieves.com/dare.

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